Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Being Friendly and Nicknames

A co-op student started her term in a big company. It was her first work experience, and she didn't quite like how she felt in the first few days. After a lifetime surrounded with friends, she felt the need to go out of her way to be friendly with all her new seniors.

First of all, she learnt all their names.
Then she started to communicate face-to-face, rather than via emails.
Then, feeling decidedly more comfortable, she started giving nicknames to her colleagues and call/email them by that nicknames. She felt they could be on a friendlier term when she did this.

Her colleagues, not knowing why she suddenly called them by shortened/different names, felt that she was being rude. It didn't help that one of the nickname she gave was actually the name the colleague was bullied with as a child (in another culture). So it seemed as if she was mocking them.

It is sufficient to say that her relationship with her colleagues did not improve, and they only talked on a need-to basis.

Lesson: Don't give people nicknames they don't approve of. Especially if those people are your colleagues (or seniors) at work place. (Exceptions apply to close friends -- they may know you mean no harm).


On the same note, don't people know that names are sacred? If his name is Matthew and he says, "you can call me Matt", then it's okay to call him Matt. On the other hand, if her name is Rebecca and she says, "my name is Rebecca [full stop]", then don't call her Becky. (And I know a "Steven" who doesn't want to be called "Steve" -- so don't assume).

Just ranting...

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Jam Kehidupan - Remembering Abud

This song has been playing in my head ever since I heard the news about a good friend's passing due to an accident. It was unexpected. He was still very young.

In our teenage years, we sang this song together.
Jam kehidupan diputar sekali
Dan tak seorang pun tau kapan 'kan berhenti
Mungkin hari ini, mungkin esok, mungkin nanti
Cepat atau lambat, tak seorang tau
Bila waktunya 
Jam kehidupan diputar sekali
Dan tak seorang pun tau kapan 'kan berhenti
Sadarilah, kawan, hidup ini tak terulang
Sekarang waktunya yang kau miliki
S'karang waktunya 
Milikilah kasih Yesus
Yang menjadikan hidupmu berarti
Bekerjalah di ladang-Nya
Agar hidup tiada percuma
My friend had definitely done that in his life. He was a figure we love and respect, mostly because he loved God with all his heart.

I regret being so far away that I couldn't even attend his funeral. And while I know God's plan is the best and beyond my own understanding, let me grieve a while longer for my good friend. The tears will eventually dry and I will smile again. But for now, let me cry some more.

He is survived by his wife, a daughter, and a child in his wife's womb. May the Lord, the source of all comfort, strengthen and guide and embrace them in His love and faithfulness.

Abud, we will miss you, and we will see you in heaven one day.